I read your reply to the lady who had relationship issues
with her mother-in-law. The problem is that my wife has decided that my mother
is her enemy. In fairness, my mother has done everything to draw her closer,
but she resists all gestures of friendship. My brothers’ wives have very
cordial relationships with my mum, to the extent that the older one’s wife
always prefers to travel with my mum than with my brother! The tension that has
been created is making it difficult for me at home. My mother has so many
younger people as friends, that I cannot understand why my wife is being so
difficult. What do I do? This can really spoil this marriage.
Explore more and think outside the box:
Hmmm… you know this has been a nightmare of mine- that I
would give advice and someone would hang on to it despite the context of the
situation being vastly different. The whole ‘mother-in-law’ role has been
tainted with negativity since the dawn of time, but there are far more loving
endearing women who become the most amazing supportive mothers-in-law than the
proverbial ‘mother-in-war’. It is apparent that if the other ‘wives’ get on
with your mother, then your wife needs to be helped to understand what the
problem is. Since you have explored the more obvious reasons, there may be an
advantage in exploring more ‘outside-the-box’ thinking and creating
opportunities for your children to build a healthy loving relationship with
their grandmother through their homework and other sporting activities. Perhaps
your children can join their cousins on all those trips to grandmother’s house?
Join her in her cooking sessions? Even if your wife doesn’t come round, your
children need not be deprived of their grandmother’s love and attention. Strong
families build strong societies and strengthening family ties are critical to
ensuring we build a better nation.
God bless
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